Prevention is key

28 Feb

Hey guys!

So, February 24-March 2 is known as National Eating Disorder Awareness (NEDA) Week. This week long period is dedicated to the PREVENTION of eating disorders. Which makes sense. Prevention is the hot topic in all other areas of health. It’s the new trendy thing in health care, and for good reason. You don’t wait till you get athersclerosis- you behave in a certain way in order to prevent it. You don’t smoke for years and then try and treat the lung cancer that inevitably results. How effective is that?! You don’t smoke in the first place, or you quick ASAP. Kind of a ‘duh,’ right? Well, the same thing is true with eating disorders… and really many other psychological conditions which fall along the mental health spectrum. Prevention is so, so, SO much easier than treatment.

ED thoughts/tendencies and behaviours start years before a full-blown ED results. The trick is to spot them, or spot the susceptible individuals.

Ok, so…Let’s discuss some super early warning signs that may make one susceptible to developing an ED:

  • An anxious child and/or one who suffers from separation anxiety (especially from the Mother)
  • A perfectionist child
  • A child who never wants to do anything wrong and gets upset when they do
  • A child that always wants to please/makes everyone happy
  • A child who requires more praise and attention than others
  • A child that is always told how well-behaved they are my school teachers, sports coaches etc.
  • A child deemed to be ‘overly sensitive’

Ok, so these are red flags that you see very early on. I’m talking 5-10 years of age. Of course, not every child with anxiety or what have you develops an ED. No. Not at all. What I am saying though is that if you pair this kind of personality with the behaviours below, you’re in for a rough time. Now, around age 11 or 12 if you see/notice…

  • Body conscious/mentions body
  • Talks a lot about food
  • Develops interest in foods/diets and begins researching online or in books
  • Starts to count calories or just take note of calorie counts in foods

Notice above, that no behaviours are changing, or not anything dramatic yet. Just a veering towards a dark road.

Ok, so, logic would dictate that you pair an anxious, perfectionistic child with an interest with food/diets/calories, you kind of have the perfect storm, no? YES.

Around age 13-16…

  • Begins to diet, even though already at a healthy/thin weight
  • Minor weight loss (</=10 lbs)
  • Calorie counting and measuring foods
  • Eliminating foods from diet (could be just things deemed as ‘treats,’ or whole food groups)
  • Develops an interest in exercise, specifically cardio which is the most satisfying as it provides them with the biggest boost from seeing the calories burned
  • Skipping whole meals/saying they already ate at place X/saying they’re not hungry
  • Having to eat at certain times (ie. cannot eat past 7pm)
  • Small meal sizes, only eating low cal/low fat foods

Clearly, we are headed down a bad, bad path. If you didn’t catch it earlier on, CATCH IT NOW.

You see where I’m going with this. I don’t think I even need to finish. You just continue to watch a downward spiral- restricting further, no period, no social life. Paradoxically, individuals with ED’s typically continue to excel in school and competitive extra-curriculars until they are simply too sick and physically unable to.

Basically, the point of this post is this: ED’s do not develop over night.

The same way that heart disease doesn’t. It takes years and years. Catch either one earlier on, and your chance of recovery is much greater. Trying to treat, even more difficult. At least with atherosclerosis, Dr’s have a ton of control and can perform an angioplasty, put you on medication

How to be a badass: A stepwise guide

10 Feb

Step 1: Purchase this.

CAKE 1

Step 2: Bake it up

fucking love baking

Step 3: Make some homemade chocolate buttercream frosting…

buttercream

Step 4: Ice the cake. Or get your Mom to ice the cake for you if you don’t want to ‘mess it up.’

icing cake

Step 5: Eat the freakin cake. With family and friends, of course. Always makes it more enjoyable 🙂

CAKE 2

likeabossmeme

Bake a chocolate cake for no real reason. CHECK!

Eat more cake

Much love and health,

Lauren xo

You are your problem

9 Feb

DONE.

you are your problem

 

So simple.

You are your problem, but you’re also your solution.

YOU ARE YOUR SOLUTION.

Something to ponder…

Much love and health,

Lauren

Medicine for the soul

8 Feb

Hey guys,

I’m baaaaaacccccck 😉

Here are some things to perk up your snowy Friday…

awkward

In our way

boobsstressed

clean

mom

tommy

office

Have a great night guys!!! Stay warm in this winter wonderland ❤

Much love and health,

Lauren xo

Break your patterns

23 Jan

Those of us who have suffered with an ED tend to be very rigid. We’re regimented in what we do and how we do it. Everything is calculated. Nothing is spontaneous. We must do X at this time. We cannot eat more than Y. We are only allowed to eat at time Z. Our behaviours only serve to perpetuate these cognitive beliefs. So, what’s a girl to do?

Break your patterns.

Start mixing it up. You always eat breakfast at a specific time? How about eating it when your stomach says so, regardless of the time and your rules? Maybe it will be 13 minutes earlier. Maybe 30 minutes earlier. Just go with it.

 You “have” to run on the treadmill for 50 minutes? Try 45. Heck, really throw your rigid mind off, and stop after 43 minutes or some other ‘obscure’ number. Go crazy.

Greek yogurt is “always” your morning snack. Have an orange and some nuts. Or a piece of toast. “But I had toast for breakfast.” OMG, you’re gonna die.

You have to “always” brush your teeth before you wash your face? Wash your face first. #yolo

You “have” to set your alarm every morning for some rando time. 6:27am, anyone? Ya, stop that. Change it up. Set it for 6:29am. Trust me, you’ll be fine.

It may sound ridiculous to you to make such “minor, insignificant or trivial” changes to your routine. Well, the anxiety that may be elicited won’t likely feel minor. These changes will feel uncomfortable. Some may even say scary. But that’s the point of this whole recovery journey. Stepping outside of your comfort zone. Living in the zone isn’t workin’ too well, anyways.

These small changes will give you a taste of the freedom you could have. You’ll likely feel happy, and maybe even a little rebellious. 😉 That’s good! You can live this way all the time. And soon, these alterations to your schedule will not need to be planned. They can just happen naturally. Because you allow them to.

And when ED throws a little tantrum at the changes, and you think to yourself, “I could freak out so bad right now,” don’t. Panic won’t change a thing. You can sit there and get yourself in such a state, but 20 minutes from then, you’ll be in the exact same place. You just tell ED and that rigid voice (is it the same as ED?) to shut it. Soon, it won’t be bothering you often when you show it who’s boss.

Try it out and let me know how it goes! ❤

Much love and health,

Lauren xo

Eventually

14 Jan

Right now, recovery may feel impossible. Like an insurmountable task. A mountain too high to climb. An obstacle too difficult to navigate. You don’t even know where to begin.

ok

But you know what? All you have to do is take one baby step forward.

You usually eat a 1/4 cup of oats for breakfast? Eat a 1/4 cup and 1 tablespoon.

You usually exercise for 60 minutes a day? Exercise for 50 minutes today.

You purge your lunch every day? Not today.

Just sit with the desire, that nagging ED voice telling you what you should do and you tell it to shut it. Your self destruction ends today. Right now. Not tomorrow. Now.

If you didn’t eat enough today, get up right now and have a snack. No matter what time it is. Stop following your self-imposed rules. Keep moving forward.

Recovery is not easy or comfortable. You are stepping outside of your ‘safe zone’ where you can partake in all of your maladaptive behaviours. But you know what? They don’t help you. They never did. They don’t make your life any better or easier or decrease your anxiety.

You deserve a full and happy life. One where you wake up excited for the day- just because.

Eating disorders suck your soul. But you can get it back. One spoonful at a time. Never, ever, ever, ever give up on yourself and your life. You are too valuable to lose.

Much love and health,

Lauren xo

Make me laugh

8 Jan

Lookatme! Two posts in one day? Aw yeahhhhh 😉

I think we all need a good laugh! You agree? K, good 🙂

freud

I ❤ Freud memes

friends

But I ❤ Friends even more

god

Not trying to make any kind of a statement with this one- just thought it was funny!

no touch

This kills my sister and I… 😉

ryan

Self-deprecating humour…gotta love it!

try

Oh haaayyyy, Zac 😉

Much love and health,

Lauren xo